{"id":829,"date":"2017-02-10T09:48:00","date_gmt":"2017-02-10T09:48:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.plrblogs.com\/nlp\/nlp-faqs\/5-seconds-to-smashing-more-arguments-with-nlp"},"modified":"2021-08-18T02:31:37","modified_gmt":"2021-08-18T02:31:37","slug":"5-seconds-to-smashing-more-arguments-with-nlp","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nichedemosites.com\/NLP_Mind_Programming\/5-seconds-to-smashing-more-arguments-with-nlp\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Seconds to Smashing More Arguments With NLP"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Last time the used car salesman pitched a lemon at you, he called the high price tag an &#8220;investment.&#8221; Didn&#8217;t sound so bad did it? He gift wrapped his words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you were fired, they called it a strategic downsizing. Now that didn&#8217;t make you any better off but it sure sounded nicer than being &#8220;fired&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Euphemisms are efficient linguistic tactics to counter objections. The key is to redefine certain words in an antagonist&#8217;s statement such that his objection no longer seems so overwhelming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Through redefinition we create new &#8220;frame&#8221; meanings about a behaviour by re-labeling a key word that&#8217;s part of the belief statement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The relabeling frames the entire belief statement with a new meaning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Redefinition asserts that &#8220;X doesn&#8217;t mean Y, it means Z&#8221; Since X=Z and not Y, we now have a totally new belief statement. Hopefully a more empowering one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are some questions you can test yourself with to increase your flexibility at reframing: What meanings have other people given to this objection\/ belief?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What other meanings could I attribute this behavior? What value could this belief have in other nations or cultures?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The secret to reframing: Simply replace one of the key words in the argument such that it subtly changes the sentence&#8217;s meaning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1. &#8220;It doesn&#8217;t mean x, it means y&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2. &#8220;It doesn&#8217;t cause x,&#8221; it causes y&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3. &#8220;If you really want to see a case of x, consider.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let&#8217;s do some reframes, after all, practice makes perfect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Objection: You were too tough on your employees; it&#8217;s unkind! How do you expect to motivate them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Answer: I agree that they might be hurt at first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But tough words also have its place. In this instance, I&#8217;m actually not criticizing without just cause. I&#8217;m simply expressing my feelings so they&#8217;ll know where I stand. Would you rather I lied? You believe in assertive conversation, don&#8217;t you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Objection: You&#8217;re tardy for the umpteenth time. You don&#8217;t care about me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Answer: My being late doesn&#8217;t imply I don&#8217;t care. It means I had a lot of things to do at work today; it also means I want to get everything out of my mind so when I get home I can fully relish being with you and show you how much I truly care!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Last time the used car salesman pitched a lemon at you, he called the high price tag an &#8220;investment.&#8221; Didn&#8217;t sound so bad did it? He gift wrapped his words. When you were fired, they called it a strategic downsizing. Now that didn&#8217;t make you any better off but it sure sounded nicer than being &#8220;fired&#8221; Euphemisms are efficient linguistic tactics to counter objections. The key is to redefine certain words in an antagonist&#8217;s statement such that&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":868,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[8,9,11,12,13],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/nichedemosites.com\/NLP_Mind_Programming\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/829"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/nichedemosites.com\/NLP_Mind_Programming\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/nichedemosites.com\/NLP_Mind_Programming\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nichedemosites.com\/NLP_Mind_Programming\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nichedemosites.com\/NLP_Mind_Programming\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=829"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/nichedemosites.com\/NLP_Mind_Programming\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/829\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":904,"href":"https:\/\/nichedemosites.com\/NLP_Mind_Programming\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/829\/revisions\/904"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nichedemosites.com\/NLP_Mind_Programming\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/868"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/nichedemosites.com\/NLP_Mind_Programming\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=829"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nichedemosites.com\/NLP_Mind_Programming\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=829"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nichedemosites.com\/NLP_Mind_Programming\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=829"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}